Leaving Her Marriage and Finding Herself w/ Jen Trulson – episode #16

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Today’s guest, Jen Trulson, says she found herself during the 6 months that she was separated from her husband. She’s now a MindBody coach who helps women trust themselves in finding their own truth. Listen in to hear what realization led her to STAYING in her marriage. Also, hear her tips for taking responsibility for YOUR happiness, and what Jen says does differently in her marriage now.

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In today’s episode, you’ll hear:Soul Work Sheet 16

-What made her decide to say she wanted a divorce
-What she did during her separation
-How she decided she might be able to make her marriage work
-What authors she was reading when she had her revelation
-5 tips for taking responsibility for YOUR happiness
-How motherhood played into her decision

Show Notes:

Links to Jen:
Jentrulson.com
Jen on Instagram
Jen’s post about her separation
Jen’s post on her tips for taking responsibility for your happiness

Authors  Jen Referenced:
Marianne Williamson (specifically, A Return To Love)
Cheryl Richardson
Louise Hay
Wayne Dyer
Iyanla Vanzant
Byron Katie
Elizabeth Gilbert

Soul Work Sheet 16

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  • May 26, 2016 - 3:07 pm

    Margaret - I enjoy your podcasts every week – and I know this is not the focus or purpose of your podcasts, but since they are meant to inspire, I’d love to hear one of these amazing folks talk about money.

    I feel like I listen and think, these people must have money, or they must have partners that make enough money to support the family to be able to – move out for 6 months, start and stop businesses, raising and supporting a child by teaching yoga, etc.

    If you could find someone brave enough to talk about the economics of soul work, what the reality of their bank account is in this new place they are in in life, what sacrifices or savings needed to be made to get there. I think you’d be showing many of your listeners a path they (myself included) just don’t see at the moment.ReplyCancel

    • May 26, 2016 - 5:56 pm

      Michelle - Margaret: Fantastic point. You might enjoy episodes 19 and 20 coming up…19 is with a woman who, after her divorce, moved abroad with her son, and episode 20 is with artist Kelly Rae Roberts, who changed careers from social work to art AND is the primary income provider for her family. We talk more specifically about money in these two episodes, and I’ll keep this in mind for season 2. Thank you for listening and taking the time to provide your thoughts. I’d love to hear more about your story! Glad you’re here Margaret!ReplyCancel

    • May 27, 2016 - 4:25 pm

      Jen Trulson - Hi Margaret!

      I too feel inspired by many of the stories shared here.

      I know I didn’t share the financial part of my leaving and since you asked, would love to share.

      At the time I left my marriage we were living paycheck to paycheck. In order for me to move out I went back to work full-time to get the money to rent an apartment and pay my own bills. I will admit it was scary and stretched both of us financially yet I wasn’t willing to live an unhappy and unfulfilled life anymore.

      For me, it’s was like the quote… “Change happens when the pain of staying the same was greater than the pain of change.” For a long time, I was telling myself I could never leave because I didn’t have the courage, we didn’t have the money, family would hate me, friends would unfriend me, where we lived, etc. The list goes on. And that was ok. I truly believe in divine timing and guidance.

      I once read an unhappy spouse, on average, will leave their marriage twelve or more times in their mind before physically leaving. When the timing is right, it’s right and not a minute before that.

      Until that day in July, reminiscing on my father passing on his 38th birthday, I wasn’t ready to leave. Something shifted in that moment and I knew I couldn’t stay in my marriage anymore. I couldn’t let my kids think that the marriage my husband and I had was a good example. I also knew in that moment I would do whatever it took… move to a cheaper area, work two or three jobs, I’d figure it out. Fortunately, I got a great full-time job that covered my cost of living and found an apartment a couple miles away – still living paycheck to paycheck. I had an aunt who gave me $500 to get started with a vacuum and the basics. I had an aunt, cousin, and a couple friends who didn’t have anything to give but nonjudgmental emotional support which was priceless.

      My husband even offered for me to stay in our house and said he would leave but I didn’t want that. He was a good and generous guy but it was also his way of, what I believe, subconsciously trying to control the situation. I knew I needed space and space of my own. As I shared in my interview, I had no intentions of reconciling so when I left, I wanted to be solely financially responsible.

      I realize all our journeys are unique, it’s what leads to the richness of Michelle’s podcast series. Our circumstances so very different. I was simply supporting myself but it took a whole lot of courage to do so. I know some may also be looking at also supporting themselves AND their children.

      I will add I was raised / came from very little. I know I can be happy living on little when the home is full of love, support and joy. It’s just who I am.

      I hope this shed some light on my financial journey. Feel free to email me if you have questions or want to chat. Much love to you on your journey Margaret!

      xo.jenReplyCancel

      • June 6, 2016 - 8:46 am

        Margaret - thank you so much for your honesty, both Michelle and Jennifer, and please know there was no judgment – I guess I am still in that place where I believe I can’t have that, do that feel that yet because… but you are showing my by example that the soul finds a way.

        And mine will too…

        Thank you again, and warm wishes to you both.ReplyCancel

        • June 6, 2016 - 10:17 am

          Michelle - You absolutely will and are finding the way, just by inquiring! I’m inspired by women like you who speak their truth (as you did here) and are listening to the subtle voice inside. So much love to you, Margaret! xoxo-michelleReplyCancel

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