Dr. Catherine Pearlman is the founder of The Family Coach, a private practice specializing in helping families resolve everyday problems related to discipline, sleep, and sibling rivalry, among other issues. She is the proud parent of a son in elementary school and a daughter in middle school. Her syndicated Dear Family Coach column has appeared in The Wall Street Journal and many regional parenting magazines. She has appeared on Today and her advice has been featured in Parenting, Men’s Health, CNN.com, and The Huffington Post. Dr. Pearlman is a licensed clinical social worker who has been working with children and families for more than twenty years. She is an assistant professor of social work at Brandman University and received her PhD in social welfare from Yeshiva University and a masters of social work from New York University.
I chat with her about her new book, Ignore It!, and how selectively looking the other way can not only relieve us from having to nag our children, but it also gives them the space to learn from their mistakes. This book was a game changer in my home, and hopefully it can help create a little more peace in your family as well.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
-how Catherine came up with the premise of this book
-why “ignoring it” works
-behaviors you can ignore
-behaviors you can’t ignore
-specifics on how to selectively ignore
-a different take on timeouts
-how quickly you can expect to see behavioral changes
-why rewarding good behavior is important
-the difference between a reward and a bribe
-some specific scenario questions submitted from listeners
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